Conscious parenting isn’t about ‘getting it right’ all the time, its about evolving together.
I learn as much from my children as they learn from me. Through parenting, I’ve grown as a person with every challenge and joy it has brought me. Everyday is exhausting as it is exhilarating, as routine as it is remarkable. I’m evolving everyday and developing an inner trust like that of my children—to love and not to fear.
Everyday practices in conscious parenting that make me better, so I can be better for my children.
- Be present. I can’t enjoy the moment in front of me if I’m dwelling on the past or stressing about the future. Try to be more like my children and accept whatever I’m feeling in the moment and then move on.
- Choose love. I can’t choose what happens each day. With children especially, there is a lot that is out of my control, but I can choose my reaction. Choose love, even in the hardest moments, and children will follow our lead.
- Be Accepting. Every child is as different as every parent. I have to parent in the way that is best for me and my child—without judging or comparing with other parents or other children. Accept each child’s strengths and weaknesses and help them develop the tools they need to be the best they can be.
- Feel grateful. When I feel grateful everyday and express it to my children, I feel happier and so do they. I feel that the The law of attraction is real in parenting just as it is in life. Express gratitude and more positive things come my way, feel negative and more negative comes my way.
- Remember roots and wings. I am here to give my children roots—all the love and tools they need to be the best they can be. And wings—so they can be independent, happy people who confidently follow their own dreams. It is important to model the behaviors I wish for my children but most importantly let them be themselves. Being a happy, independent person who is following my own dreams is the best thing for my children to see as they learn to do the same. My children will eventually lead their own lives so even as I’m hand-on parenting now my young children, I need to remember I’m also a woman and a wife, not just a mom.
Making parenting more meaningful through conscious parenting
I write about making everyday moments as a mom more meaningful. The best way for me to find that meaning is to focus on being more conscious, accepting, and loving everyday. Thoughts of fear and worry and frustration will always come in. But the faster we can move on from those negative feelings, we can get back to our true being that is just like our children’s—joyful and light. Our children can help bring out that lightness out of us if we let it.
By trusting ourselves, our children will learn to trust themselves too.
Being our best starts simply with being mindful, present, and feeling love for ourselves. When we feel love for ourselves, then we can love our families—and that is how we can help our children blossom into their true selves.
A lot of my thoughts were inspired from the wonderful book The Conscious Parent by Shafali Tsabary. Check it out to learn more about conscious parenting.
Connect with me